No one looks forward to the terrible twos, My son just turned two years old and i notice that his tantrums began before he even turned two. Many parents don't expect the terrible twos to start until their toddler is two years old, it is important to note that it can begin anytime during your child's second year, and so anytime after their first birthday. Toddlers being to be negative about most things and often saying 'no', finds your toddler having frequent mood changes and temper tantrums.
To help you deal with this normal stage in your child's development, you should always remember that your child isn't trying to be defiant or rebellious on purpose. He is just trying to express his growing independence and doesn't have the language skills to easily express his needs. This can also be the reason why your toddler frequently gets frustrated and resorts to hitting, biting, and temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way.
- having a regular routine for meals, naps, bedtime, etc. and try to stick to them each day
- offer limited choices only, like 'would you like apples or oranges for your snack' and not just 'what do you want for your snack.' This helps your toddler feel like he is making some decisions and has power over things, but he isn't able to choose unacceptable alternatives.
- learn to set limits about things and don't be surprised when your toddler tries to test those limits to see what he can get away with
- don't give in to tantrums
- begin to use time-out and taking away privileges as discipline techniques